My So-Called Life

Wednesday, February 07, 2007

Wow. That's quite the turn around.

Ousted Pastor ‘Completely Heterosexual’
By NEELA BANERJEE
Published: February 7, 2007, New York Times

Forced by a gay sex scandal to resign as president of the National Association of Evangelicals, the Rev. Ted Haggard now feels that after three weeks of intensive counseling, he is “completely heterosexual,” says an overseer of the megachurch Mr. Haggard once led.

The church official, the Rev. Tim Ralph, said in an interview published yesterday by The Denver Post that Mr. Haggard had also told the board of overseers that his only sexual relationship involving another man had been with Michael Jones, the onetime Denver prostitute who exposed that three-year affair last fall. Mr. Jones said then that he was making it public because Mr. Haggard had acted hypocritically in promoting a constitutional amendment to bar same-sex marriage.

Mr. Haggard, who as a result of the scandal was ousted by the overseers in November as senior pastor of New Life Church in Colorado Springs, broke a three-month silence over the weekend when he contacted members of the church by e-mail to tell them that he was healing.

His three weeks of counseling, in Phoenix, felt like “three years’ worth of analysis and treatment,” but now “Jesus is starting to put me back together,” Mr. Haggard wrote in the e-mail message, which was published in The Colorado Springs Gazette on Monday.

“I have spent so much time in repentance, brokenness, hurt and sorrow for the things I’ve done and the negative impact my actions have had on others,” he said.

Mr. Haggard could not be reached for comment yesterday. Mr. Ralph declined through a spokeswoman to comment, and there was no response to telephone calls and e-mail to another overseer or to a New Life spokesman. But Mr. Ralph told The Denver Post that Mr. Haggard had come out of the counseling convinced of his heterosexuality.

“He is completely heterosexual,” Mr. Ralph told The Post, adding that Mr. Haggard’s homosexual activity had not been “a constant thing.”

Dr. Jack Drescher, a New York psychiatrist who is an expert on issues of gender and sexuality, said that while it was people’s prerogative to identify their sexual orientation as they wanted, the notion of being able to change that orientation was “not consistent with clinical presentations, but totally consistent with theological belief.”

“Some people in the community that Mr. Haggard comes from believe homosexuality is a form of behavior, a sinful form of behavior based on certain things in the Bible, and they don’t believe you can create a healthy identity based on sinful behavior,” Dr. Drescher said. “So they define it as a behavior that can be changed, and there is this thinking that if you control those behaviors enough, heterosexual attractions will follow.”

Mr. Haggard said in his message to New Life members that he and his wife were taking online courses to get master’s degrees in psychology, and Mr. Ralph told The Post that the oversight board had recommended to Mr. Haggard that he take up secular work.

2 Comments:

Blogger Unknown said...

do you hate it when you post something really interesting and nobody comments on it?

this was a really interesting story to me. i have mixed emotions about it: part of me wantst to jump up and down, pointing and yell at everyone to look at the hypocrisy. then, part of me wants to stand by this man and his family because he was trapped in a flawed system that didn't allow him to address the problems/urges he was having, and now that system has given him the proverbial boot.

i want to know what others think about this, it's such an interesting story. plus i live in denver, just down the road from where this is happening.

8:39 AM  
Blogger A. Lo said...

One of my friends sent me a copy of Friends of God, the documentary by Alexandra Pelosi.

In it, she interviews Pastor Haggard quite a bit, and at the end, he makes this comment about how even non-Christians want Christians to be moral, and how disappointing it is when they fail by getting involved in scandals, etc.

It was filmed before his "extracurricular activities" were brought to light, and it's almost like eerie foreshadowing. You almost feel sorry for the guy.

The thing that touched me most in the documentary, though, was this interview with a gay man who used to work for Jerry Falwell (who, of course, is famously anti-homosexual). This man still attends Pastor Falwell's church, and he says it is because the people there are good people, that they don't stand against homosexuality because they're malicious, but because they're mislead.

And then he weeps through the service.

1:35 PM  

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